Saturday, November 12, 2011

A message on 11-11-11

They say 11-11-11 will be good for you.Don't know about anyone else but yeah it did a little good to me.

Yesterday i was in chandigarh when i received a message regarding some professional work(jobs) from an old friend with whom i had not interacted since 20th apr 2011 due to some conflicts in our mind against each other and i never tried to elucidate them either for though i considered myself correct on my part and a little self respect was pulling me back everytime when i decided to take the initiative. I didn't reply to the message due to lack of sufficient balance in my phone and roaming charges etc ( ok its an excuse i know coz a message can't charge you more than 50p ) and i had 92p left. All because i wasn't willing to reply, i know it sounds a little egoistical but another truth is: its always difficult in an argument(cold fights) to judge who did less wrong to the other.
So whatever, when i went back home next morning i messaged my close friend ( S ) so as to check whether she was asking her ( S) too through the same message about the jobs etc and she (S) said NO. Then i realized that she texted me only though can be many others too but not in my link. I immediately replied her although she asked for an instant reply in the message at that time but anyhow i decided its better late than never.
I texted : " Sorry for the late reply, Thanks....blah blah "

In the meanwhile i was online checking my mails. I have subscribed a daily post from Deborah Ailman, Law of Attraction and Positive Thought Instructor and was going through the same that time. The post was stating something i never expected  :
" Forgive...and let the dark clouds roll by so you can glimpse the sun. Forgive for yourself, so you can feel better. And once you've done that you'll find you can forgive because it really is the best thing for everyone:)  "
After 5 minutes my phone beeped with a new message conversing : "no sorry no thanks, how r u ? "

I don't know what happened and suddenly a tear or two rolled down from my eyes making me blind for a while and then i was laughing hard asking myself what i did  in past few months. Belonged to the same friend circle, cracking those silly jokes together, bunking classes and having fun, playing pranks, making small trips ,recalling all those golden old days and now we didn't talk from past 6 months. Wondering how had i made it possible.. It wasn't me. It can't be me. I was quick in forgiving and often forgetful too regarding any matter. Was i bearing grudges(the emotions of disliking someone) ? NO ! i never did against anyone.. but yeah i was bearing a weight in my mind,  uneasiness and a little conversation today released me from the load i was carrying from long.
 Last month of the last semester of a college life is always important. Recalling how we missed a good click together on the farewell occasion when we were in our best get up(wore saaris), the entertainment and filling each other's diary( your imprint on my life and vice versa) and many more moments.We missed them all.
 Though even today, it was not a normal but a formal talk but still enough to remind me how we used to behave when we were kids where a single "katti" breaks friendship and a single "abbi" bring two friends back together.
Qualities of a formal and not normal talks are :
--> Lack of emoticons in the chats.
--> Conversing in pure english instead of hinglish(hindi + poor english in my language)
--> avoiding the use of slangs.
Later we had few message chat, relieved me a little.
Reminded me of a very simple lesson " Life is too short for harbor bitterness, cherish the people who have been with you and are always with you..Friends are always friends, no matter what, every friendship goes through good and bad phases, its all about bridging those gaps."

Yes, a message on 11-11-11 made things a bit simple/better now. Sometimes you wait for an initiative and sometimes you need to take one. Life is not complex until we decide to make it so.
"KEEP IT SIMPLE SILLI"

32 comments:

Rahul said...

feels great,doesn't it???:-) patching up with someone after a long time... :-)

Sunakshi said...

sometimes it amazing to forgive.. :)

lovely..

Sunakshi said...

its*

Cяystal said...

I love the positiveness that runs through this post <3

Reicha Ahluwalia said...

@Rahul --> Yep! It feels great :)

@Sunakshi --> Sometimes ? its always beneficial. You free yourself.

@crystal --> Thanks :)

SUB said...

yea...keep it simple...why complicate...

nice read.

Cheers!
SUB

Rahul Bhatia said...

A very sweet post! We should enjoy to live each day as it comes and the power of positive thoughts can bring a huge change for better!

welcome to my world of poetry said...

Although I don't know the reason why my eldest son has not spoken since March I did try to patch things up yesterday but he slammed the phoned down. So I guess all links have been severed.

Loved the read excellent written.
Yvonne.

Rachit said...

can understand it as I'm in my last incampus sem... and Chandigarh.. hi then.. I'm from IET Bhaddal Ropar... long time saw any blogger from the same city.

And thanks for visiting weakest LINK... you will love News Not Making News also @ http://n2mn.blogspot.com/

inquisitive-life said...

Reicha,

I am suffering from the same baggage. Our ego is the hinderence in taking the imitative to sort out matters.

Nice Read.

God Bless

pramod said...

beautiful narrative style. patcing on 11/11/11, just great.

Shreya said...

Loved this post to the end :)

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The Solitary Writer said...

forgive and forget is what one should keep in mind.Itdoes hurts but you might not know how it might feel for your friend..fyi many ppl had created fuss on 111111 but it just went as any normal day for me...and it was my sisters birthday :d :D

Reicha Ahluwalia said...

@SUB --> yep ! true it is :)

@Rahul sir --> thanks

@Yvonne --> It huts but still we need to give them some time. Everything will be fine. I believe !

@Rachit --> Yep, nice to find someone from a near by town, but originally you are from Lucknow :D :D

@Aankeet --> Then take initiative. Its better late than never.

@Pramod --> Thank you :) Glad to see you on my blog.

@shreya --> Thanks

@TSW --> Same day is not same for all people.Thats Life :)
Well belated happy bday to your sis.

Rachit said...

yeah from mind body and soul.. I will always be a Lucknowalla :D

Weakest LINK

TheBluntBlogger said...

awww :)

it's always great to be back to friends <3 the magic date was indeed magical for you :)

Krishna said...

11-11-11 is best for you... nice ...

Amigo said...

Heart-felt post.... :)great Reicha!..

NICKYmax007 said...

Totally true, life is simple, y d hack to make it complex?....

Problem is we ourselves creates tensions.I believe in LAW OF TAKEN FOR GRANTED.Well it must sound very reckless but its not.Its all about forgetting irrational things(sometimes rational t00)

Sandeep said...

Beautifully written.....

Saloni said...

So it was
HAPPY 11-11-11 :) :)

Zeba said...

I like this message. And connecting with old old friends..

Anonymous said...

Nice lesson friend :)

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Suree said...

'Forgive me so I can forgive you, love me even the least and I will never leave you' :)
You sound like real mature person Reicha.Winning attitude that is :)

--Suri--

Jack said...

Reicha,

First visit. Read all current posts. HUM-MEIN-HUM conveyed what a wronged woman has in mind. I am a dog lover so I can well understand how you must be feeling. I have had two of them die in my lap but one can not help it. This was inspite of all we could do for them. I will suggest you do take another and pour your love onto him or her. The picture at the end of Festive season is so true but again it is upto us to reverse this trend. You pen good poems. One should never keep something in heart as it only makes us distressed. One of the basic principles of healthy relationships is - Open and logical two way communication.

Take care

Ramesh Sood said...

Can there be anything better than leading a simple life..not really.. I am also going to keep it simple..and say...THANK YOU..FOR BEING ON MY PAGE.. you write well..keep writing.. and sharing.. God bless.. and keep visiting..

the other side of me said...

where are you reicha? :(

feelthroughme said...

it resembles on of my story :( , sad part is for you patch up has happened i am still waiting for that message 11-11-11, i could have taken initiation but i am not doing because of some issues.... but your story literally meaningful , you had a good message for all others.. i am touched with it .. there you GO !!

Ezazi said...

"Sometimes you wait for an initiative and sometimes you need to take one."

Made my day. Feel delighted for you. Have a good day, beautiful. <3

chirag said...

for me everyday is a new day
i enjoyed this day as a new day
nice blog
long time no post on your blog

Elvirah said...

Forgiveness is the best attribute that one can exhibit to renew a broken relationship. Life is really too short to hold any kind of complaints or grude within us and make it complicated.